It was a week full of wear and a week full of wonder.
Let’s focus on the wonder and the joy for the wear is just too wearying.
Here we have neighbors who know how to ask for help, who know how to help, to engage in the help, and one who sits back and wonders. So my neighbor got a flat tire and asked me for help. I got her car towed, and I asked another neighbor to help us take off the flat so she could get it fixed, and then he installed the good tire when it was done. (I supervised, of course, because they’re all using my car and my tools and my jack, but at least I provided some cardboard for him to sit upon so he didn’t get gravel in his shorts.) And, amazingly, he torqued the lug nuts in a star pattern without me having to say so, which is a miracle in itself and I want a fucking medal for keeping my mouth shut. Neighbors helping each other, even if one of them isn’t as independent as she could be, I should not judge, but I hope she learns a lesson here and gets a spare tire and a jack. Three strangers showed up and asked us if we needed help, and I knew we’re not in New York, Dorothy. It was wonderful, top to bottom, even though it was a trial for her getting a flat. We should look out for our neighbors, a message I want to trumpet as often as I can. It’s where the real world is, angels holding hands as she’s waiting for the ambulance to come. Work this human thing, people!
You probably live near someone. Do you know their name? Can you wave to them when you go down to get the mail? Can you make eye contact or smile just a little? Will you shove a few bucks in the guys hand when he begs in the parking lot, and can you ask your partner for help when you know you’re really hurting and need help, and I don’t just mean washing the dishes? Ask for help. Give some help. All the rest is just noise.