It doesn’t take a behavior specialist to understand why the actors thank their moms at the microphone at the Oscars.
Jamie Lee Curtis did. Many others before her did.
I’ve watched a great many police interviews with teens and young twenties, male and female. It’s not like what you see on TV
with shouting or abuse or threats. The detectives just talk to them, trying to get to the heart of the matter. At the end
of the interview, when it’s clear to them where they are headed, most of them ask, deeply sad, “Can I call my Mom?”
When I was a teenager, I came across a new phrase, a new concept and it shook me:
“The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.” I meditated on that concept for a long, long time back then.
And I’ve come back to it today as I watch Oscar winners tearfully accept their honor, and I think about the young
people who want to call their Moms, who need their Moms, as they’re walking off in orange and flip flops, about to be
cold and afraid for the rest of their lives.
Right now I feel like, we can never get past that Mom thing, no matter how old we are. We are never not attached.
It varies in degrees, ever changing, but always there. They are part of our success and failure and we need them
no matter what. Thank you for listening.